Winning at Postpartum: How to Beat Anxiety and Depression and Feel Like Yourself Again
When I became a mom, I thought “winning at postpartum” meant keeping the house spotless, the baby perfectly fed, and myself looking halfway put-together. Instead, I found myself exhausted, anxious, and constantly worried I was doing it all wrong. As both a therapist and a mom who’s walked through postpartum anxiety, I’ve learned that real winning isn’t about perfection—it’s about caring for yourself as much as you care for your baby.
Spotting the Opponent: What Anxiety and Depression Look Like Postpartum
Everyone expects new motherhood to be tiring, but when sadness, fear, or racing thoughts become constant, it’s more than just “baby blues.” Recognizing these warning signs is the first step to turning things around.
Signs of Postpartum Depression
Constant sadness, emptiness, or hopelessness
Crying for reasons you can’t explain
Feeling disconnected from your baby or worried you’re a “bad mom”
Loss of interest in things you normally enjoy
Big changes in sleep or appetite (beyond newborn life!)
Thoughts of harming yourself or believing your baby would be better off without you (if this happens, seek help right away—call 911 or a crisis line)
Signs of Postpartum Anxiety
Racing thoughts that won’t turn off—often about your baby’s safety
Feeling on edge or constantly restless
Physical symptoms like a pounding heart or upset stomach
Trouble sleeping even when your baby sleeps
Compulsively checking on your baby, even when you know they’re okay
Game Plan: How to Fight Back and Win
You don’t “snap out of” postpartum depression or anxiety—you work through it with the right tools and support.Here’s how you can start winning:
Talk openly. Shame disappears when you speak your truth. Share your feelings with someone you trust or a therapist who understands postpartum mental health.
Get real support. Therapy, support groups, and sometimes medication can be game-changers. You deserve help just as much as your baby deserves care.
Prioritize rest. Sleep is not selfish—it’s essential. Take naps, accept help, and let go of the idea you have to “do it all.”
Move a little. Even a short walk can help release stress and improve your mood.
Nourish yourself. Eating regularly and fueling your body gives you the energy you need to face the day.
Challenge the anxious voice. When worry hits, ask: Is this true, or is it my anxiety talking? Naming it helps you control it.
Lower the bar. Your baby doesn’t need a perfect mom—just a loving one. And loving yourself is part of loving them.
Why I Believe This Fight Is Worth It
As a military spouse and therapist, I’ve walked alongside women who carry heavy loads—sometimes without much support. I’ve also lived through postpartum anxiety myself. That’s why I believe being a therapist is the most special job in the world: it’s an honor to hold space for women to share their struggles, discover their strength, and realize they’re not alone.
Winning at postpartum doesn’t mean doing everything perfectly. It means learning to care for yourself, asking for help when you need it, and trusting that you are enough.
If these words sound like your story, please know you’re not failing—you’re just facing a challenge you were never meant to face alone. Reach out to your doctor, connect with a therapist, or talk to someone you trust. With help, healing is not just possible—it’s absolutely within your reach.
